In order to help clients with the evaluation of their behavior, Reality Therapy posits a number of procedures designed to help the client do this. There are similar procedures in a Coaching situation.

Procedures that lead to change in a coaching situation:

  • Creating the environment/relationship with the clients
  • Find out what it is that they want
  • Find out what they have done or are doing to get what they want
  • Ask if what they have been doing is working and is it taking them in the direction they want to go.
  • Ask if they are interested in looking for other options
  • Create a plan

Dr. Glasser always said the plan should come from the client.

Here are the six fundamentals of coaching:

  1. Self-awareness
  2. Presence
  3. Listening
  4. Curiosity
  5. Effective Questioning
  6. Intuition

Here is a suggestion to think about. We need to be totally aware of how we present ourselves to our clients. To be most effective, we need to truly listen to what they are telling us. To get curious means to ask questions for clarification.

For example: I just want to grow my business. Explain what growing your business looks like.  We continue to effectively question until the client as well as the coach/counselor is clear on what the client really wants.  When it comes to intuition, Dr. Glasser always said that some of the best counselling came purely from the “gut”, which I refer to as “intuition.”

What do you think? Was Dr. Glasser the first coach?